How To Keep A Secret From Your Best Friend?

Keeping secrets is important, especially if there are certain odd things and events in your life that you would rather not have anybody else know. Usually, the only people that you tell about your secrets are your best friend or those family members that you are willing to tell your secrets to. These people sometimes, although unconsciously, expect you to share with them your secrets, and most of the time you do. However, if you did keep a secret form your best friend, there will be a lot of mixed emotions that will be experienced not just by you, but your best friend, as well. Put yourself in your best friend's shoes. If you had found out that she or he had been keeping a secret from you, wouldn't you feel offended, even by the slightest bit? However, there truly are some things that are best left unsaid and undiscussed. If you want to learn how to be able to keep a secret from your best friend, then continue on reading this article. This article will offer you a few hints on how to do just that.

1) Never lie.

If there is something that you want to keep from your best friend, just avoid talking about it, but never ever lie to him or her. This will be the biggest mistake that you can do to your best friend. It is already bad enough that you don't trust him or her enough for you to entrust your secret with him or her; to lie about it just makes the situation worse.

If you are in a situation where there is a possibility that your secret will be revealed, like when your best friend asks you a direct question about it, just completely avoid the situation or question instead of lying about it. If you lie, you will only end up hurting your best friend even more.

2) Keep your best friend involved.

If you decide to keep a secret from your best friend, it does not mean that you exclude him or her from it completely. One way of letting your friend know that you still value his or her opinion and trust is by keeping him or her involved even if you have no intention of telling him or her.

You can ask his or her opinion about things that are related to your secret, and let him or her know that his or her opinion and involvement is very important to you. Even if you chose not to tell your best friend about your secret, you can still show that he or she is important to you still by keeping him or her within the loop.

3) Share your feelings.

Make your best friend understand that keeping your secret from him or her is not what you want to do, but you need to do it. Show him or her that you do not exactly want to keep the secret from him or her, and let your best friend know that there are just some things that you just need to keep for yourself. This will make your best friend see that there is a good reason for your decision to keep things from him or her, and not just because you trust him or her less.

Keeping secrets from the people that you want to tell your secrets to is definitely not easy, both for you and your best friend. But keep in mind that if that person is truly your best friend, then he or she would understand your decision to keep a secret from him or her regardless of the reason why.

Written by Steve Tucker